... it really, REALLY bothers me when I read about:
*penises ripping through delicate tissues
*feeling your boyfriend's cock as it tears through your "membrane"
*his throbbing member breaking through her barrier
Why, you may be asking?
Let's take a gander at our good friend, the hymen, shall we? Often known by the established term “hymen,” the vaginal corona is the subject of many myths and misunderstandings. The most important of these is the notion that a woman’svaginal opening is covered by a membrane that ruptures with vaginal sex. This is incorrect.There is no such membrane.
Did you read that?
THERE IS NO SUCH MEMBRANE!!!!!
So please to be stopping with this tearing/ripping/breaking nonsense, m'kay?
Since the vaginal corona isn’t a brittle membrane, the sensation when you first stretch out the mucous tissue folds – whether you’re inserting a tampon, masturbating or having insertive sex – is a highly individual experience. Some women feel no pain at all, while others, with a thicker vaginal corona, have reported some pains. There may be minor ruptures in the mucous folds that hurt, and sometimes there may be a little bleeding.
For a woman to enjoy vaginal intercourse – regardless of how many times she has done it and what is being inserted in her vagina – she needs to be aroused and lubricated (wet). If she is tense and has difficulties in relaxing, it may hurt more. It doesn’t matter whether it’s her first, second or tenth time.
Fellas - this is where you need to pay attention, right up there ^^^^. You got to get your lady nice and wet, m'kay?
I mean, seriously, I think I can speak for most women when I say that there have been times when I wasn't primed properly and shit HURT. And it most definitely wasn't my first time.
My first time? My boyfriend at the time was patient, caring and actually made my first time pleasurable. Sure there was stretching and such, but he "preheated the oven", had me on top (very important, since it allows the girl to control the penetration), and took his time.
Sure, he ended up going into the Marine Corps and turned into a flaming asshole, but hey - at least he did one thing right. ;-)
So dear writers, please, for the love of RPattz, STOP flipping writing about Edward "tearing" through Bella's barrier - THERE IS NO FUCKING BARRIER TO THE VAGINA.
Thank you. /rant
I got most of this information from